5 Consequences of Being Authentic and Unapologetic

I couldn't find my own voice when I initially started writing. I'd read someone's genuine writing and think, "yes, that's what I'm aiming for." But occasionally, I'd come across a writer who was friendly and hopeful and thought to myself, "hmm, perhaps that suits me better." I stopped trying to shape myself into someone else along the road and just started to write down my ideas as they occurred to me—in any tone and with whatever language seemed true at the time.

At first, I was hesitant to post these. How would I ensure success if it didn't match the style of previous successful articles? How was I going to make sure they liked me? A long time ago, I heard a businesswoman say that developing your unique brand and personality will eventually attract or repel others. When I initially listened to this, my body reacted quickly. I was worried about the prospect of offending someone with my honesty. Then I had an epiphany.

Repulsiveness does not have to be a bad thing. It simply means that those who disagree with my objective, vision, and lifestyle will not gather around me. As a result, those who gather have spontaneously determined that they want to join the most authentic version of me. After I made this mental change, I came to the following conclusion:

• What are we still doing if we're not appealing or repelling?

• Are we slipping into obscurity?

• Are we forgetting ourselves in an attempt to live up to some standard we've set of whom we're meant to be?

• Are we existentially threatened or approved, but never completely loved or rejected?

• What is the nature of such relationships?

When I looked at it this way, I realized how lonesome it is to be in that comfy center zone between appealing and repelling.

Through my personal experience of getting closer to discovering my authentic self, I've found some incredible benefits of abandoning trying to fit a pattern but instead pursuing what feels right with my spirit.

1. Ease of Happiness.

I feel better when I get up early in the morning and am more involved with my natural sense of self, purpose, desires, and ambitions. Since my feathers aren't plucked as readily when I reach this point, I feel like I'm exuding happiness and fulfillment. I am effortlessly cheerful because the energy-draining efforts to maintain a façade that is dishonest to my actual self are no longer there in my day.

2. A Service-Oriented Heart.

Genuine sincerity and contentment frequently encourage altruism. I would say that when I live in accordance with my true self, I am not only happy but also more willing to help others. For instance, I'm more inclined to smile at a stranger. I have a strong desire to do good. If we can design a life that promotes our real identity, we will be more likely to actively spend time distributing the joy we have.

3. Deepest Confidence

I mean genuine assurance, not pompous confidence akin to the ego. Instead, it's the kind of assurance that appeals to people like moths to a flame. I can sense it in my guts when I'm not acting naturally. When I'm forced to engage, my chuckle isn't as deep, and the contact I'm establishing isn't as significant. Although apparently valuable for avoiding appearing strange, those forced conversations led me to this point of overanalyzing and deconstructing every phrase for days following, brooding on what prevented me from simply being me.

4. The Truth of Life

I've gotten closer to figuring out my mission as I've zeroed down on my particular abilities and gifts. When we make time in our lives to follow our passions, even if it is simply a pastime, the advantages are far-reaching. This dream-chasing, passion-pursue mindset has given my life a new purpose.

5. Enhanced Productivity

My production volumes grow naturally when my attempts start from a position of genuine drive. Immediately, I felt a desire to get out of bed every morning and a passion in my spirit to keep battling for more consistency in my mission and ambitions. When I try to connect with the deepest depths of myself—the area where my actual honesty resides—the course of my day becomes quite concentrated and apparent.